Helping others, Helping yourself

One thing I struggle with is infringing on other people’s free will. I don’t like “preaching” at people and I don’t want to tell someone how to live or how to handle their life or circumstances. However, I also feel this desire to try to “help” people. Where is the line? Is there a line?? How do I “help” people without bombarding them with my distortions? Just because something works for me, doesn’t mean it will work for others- how do I balance this? How do I *know* what to say?

This is overwhelming…. I was commenting on a post, and wanted to say SO MANY THINGS, but I had to truncate my comment because I didn’t want to preach. I also don’t want to give advice when it is not requested. I am not providing “service to others” if I am forcing it on an unwilling participant. At that point, I am only serving myself and my desire to “help.”

So instead of aiming my advice toward one specific soil- let me scatter it broadly so the seed can fell wherever the soil is accepting. One benefit of this change is that I can say even MORE on the subject than I was planning to originally.

It [does not] go without saying:  If this does not resonate with you- forget about it! Don’t force something to fit into your world when it doesn’t fit.

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If I could have one wish for everyone, it is for you to know -with every fiber of your being- that you have the authority and capacity to change your environment. You are not powerless.

Stop giving your power to other people and circumstances!!

What I mean by that is: Evaluate a situation, know your responsibility in it, accept your responsibility in it, forgive yourself and others involved, find the “growth” opportunity, and lastly and MOST IMPORTANTLY- accept the love/give the love freely.

EVALUATE EVERYTHING
So for an example- you lost your job. How many thoughts lately did you have that you wanted to leave your job? Similarly, how much fear were you projecting about losing the job? Were much of your thoughts based in fear or scarcity? What were your beliefs around this job or its duties? How did you feel about the people you worked with or the “work environment” as a whole? Have you been craving a change, but were too scared to initiate it yourself?

KNOWING RESPONSIBILITY
Chances are you had some part in creating this change in your world. If you are saying to yourself “None of those questions apply to me” then you could also ask yourself if this was a much-needed-kick-in-the-pants for something greater? Don’t discard God’s/Your Higher Self’s/The Universe’s ability to force a change on you that is NEEDED if you aren’t taking enough action for yourself.

ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY
We can’t always see “the bigger picture,” but if you can accept a change in your life as something that is REQUESTED BY YOU and/or NEEDED FOR YOUR GROWTH, then you can roll with the change with some joy and grace. Accepting responsibility also helps greatly with forgiveness…

FORGIVENESS
If you find that you brought a perceived catastrophe upon yourself, forgive yourself for it. Every circumstance is an opportunity for growth and for a chance to show love. Show a little love for yourself. You will get through this, and chances are you will be stronger for it and better for it. After the pains of change have passed, if you believe that you will be stronger and better, you can perhaps find forgiveness for others involved that helped bring about the change. It’s easier to forgive others when you can accept at least a partial responsibility in the matter. Holding onto bitterness and pain will harm you more than anyone else. Allow yourself the time for growth and change and allow this time for others as well. We are none of us perfect beings, and for the most part- each of us believes we are doing the right thing (even if we can’t admit that to ourselves, but that’s a whole large topic in and of itself…).

GROWTH
Looking back: What did you learn from the last job and the people you worked with?  What was it you liked about the job and what was it that you didn’t like? Where did you find the joy and where did you find the stress? What stimulated you and moved you and what caused you to be exhausted or depressed?

Looking forward: So now what? Where do you go from here? What is it that you want to do with your life? What is it that you really want from a job? Do you want peace and quiet or challenges and stimulation? Do you want to work within a certain field or with certain like-minded people? Do you want a job that allows you the freedom to travel or be at home with the family more? Do you value financial stability and regularity or do you truly crave the ability to be inventive, creative even at the cost of irregular pay and hours?

Looking at yourself: Did you have the strength for survival, love, and forgiveness? Did that surprise you? Were you/Are you able to pursue a career path that is more exciting, creative, or peaceful? How many of your thoughts were centered on trust and faith? How many were based in fear or scarcity? What did these thoughts bring about? Be patient with yourself while you manifest what you truly desire. Things may not happen overnight (but they can!). Only state the things out-loud that you truly want to bring about in your world. Be clear on what it is you truly want. Instead of saying “I want a million dollars” try stating what it is you want the million dollars for. For example: I want the ability to have 2 family vacations each year. I want to live without debt. I want to be able to focus on my family. I want to be able to focus on my creative endeavors. What does success mean to you? State it out loud, write it down, manifest it through love, clear will, and strong faith.

LOVE
Identify areas that there was love given to you from yourself, others, or God/The Universe (insert whatever form makes sense to you). Identify areas that you can show love to yourself, others, and God/The Universe. Be grateful and give thanks in EVERYTHING. Even if you cannot see the silver lining, know that it is there and be grateful for the silver-lining-of-the-future to show itself. If you look close enough, you can find love in every action. Love is there, even if you’re only identifying how someone else loved themselves instead of “loving others.” Be aware that sometimes you need to love yourself, and if this harms other people- know that eventually this harmful outcome will be known to that person and that person will have to reconcile with their actions/outcomes in the best way they can.

Perhaps this is lengthy enough now. If you’ve read this far- thank you! If anything has resonated with you- that’s awesome. In the end, I hope none of this caused any unsettling or harm.

Let me end on this note: only speak aloud that which you want to see in your life. You can also write them down. Have a clear will for what you want and a strong faith that it will come about in its own time. Be patient, forgiving, and full of love.

(Yes, I am still working on all of this, too!)

 

Heaven is Now

New Earth – Your Creative Choice!

Read this beautiful post this morning and it brought tears to my eyes. I love the inspirational words. The idea that “Heaven” is out there or later just seems so wrong these days. In the eternal dance of the Now, we can have Heaven/Eden/Utopia/New Earth right here and right now.

These things are only “later” if you choose to continue to deny the shift in perspective. You have the power to have paradise now if you accept love fully. See love everywhere, embrace forgiveness for yourself and others. See beauty in all things. Sing, dance, laugh, play. Share this joy with everyone around you. Heaven is you.

via New Earth — Your Creative Choice!

Broken?

What a concept. The initial thought from the word “Broken” makes me think of a person with a broken spirit. My next thought is to shift my perception away from the idea that a person can be “broken.” In the eternal “now,” everything is as it should be. You are looking at one snapshot of an idea. Just as death begets new life, destruction allows for a new creation.

Embrace the change. Discard the notion that there is “trauma” and allow your perception to see the chance for something new. I hope my words will not be mistaken as being dismissive of someone who has experienced trauma. I sincerely wish to give everyone their power back to overcome seemingly traumatic experiences in order to view them without an emotional attachment other than love.

That which is not needed falls away. Do not hold onto that which is not serving you. Holding onto the idea of the pain is what perpetuates the pain. Release the trauma of brokenness and embrace the experiences which have molded you into who you are. Find forgiveness for yourself and for others. Find love for yourself and others.

This is not easy, but it will give you strength.

 

 

–Responding to the Daily Prompt Broken from The Daily Post

All is ONE

We are all ONE, and although we may seem to be divided, it is impossible to actually be separate. Separateness is an illusion.

If you believe in a God, you probably think “God created everything.” If you do not believe in a creator, then maybe you believe that “Everything came from nothing -or if it must come from “something” at best it would be from an infinitesimal singularity- and has exploded into what we know as the world today.” Both sides of the story are pretty much telling the same thing. Everything comes from God or comes from one “source.”

If God is the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end, then EVERYTHING in between is also God.

In my view, Creator began this experience, we go out from the Creator to fulfill Its desire to know. We are all instruments of this Creator that are used to learn, experience, and create more ways to learn, experience. Eventually, we will come back to the Creator and rejoin. Perhaps another “day,” we will all go out and experience again. This is a cycle. this circular pattern is seen everywhere. Life, death, rebirth. Rebirth is usually something new and different. The cells in our body are continuously dying and recreating. As a body, we grow up and die out. Seasons every year cultivates new life in the Spring and the chill of Winter causes much death and hibernation. The “end” always brings a new beginning. The beginning is where the end is. The Alpha is also the Omega.  It/ We/ This will not “cease;” it will merely change into something new.

 

Currently, one of my favorite portions of the Law of One channelings is as follows:

[1.7] Ra: I am Ra. Consider, if you will, that the universe is infinite. This has yet to be proven or disproven, but we can assure you that there is no end to your selves, your understanding, what you would call your journey of seeking, or your perceptions of the creation.

That which is infinite cannot be many, for many-ness is a finite concept. To have infinity you must identify or define that infinity as unity; otherwise, the term does not have any referent or meaning. In an Infinite Creator there is only unity. You have seen simple examples of unity. You have seen the prism which shows all colors stemming from the sunlight. This is a simplistic example of unity.

In truth there is no right or wrong. There is no polarity for all will be, as you would say, reconciled at some point in your dance through the mind/body/spirit complex which you amuse yourself by distorting in various ways at this time. This distortion is not in any case necessary. It is chosen by each of you as an alternative to understanding the complete unity of thought which binds all things. You are not speaking of similar or somewhat like entities or things. You are every thing, every being, every emotion, every event, every situation. You are unity. You are infinity. You are love/light, light/love. You are. This is the Law of One.

 

Gospel of Thomas, Nag Hammadi

(18) The disciples said to Jesus: “Tell us how our end will be.” Jesus said: “Have you already discovered the beginning that you are now asking about the end? For where the beginning is, there the end will be too. Blessed is he who will stand at the beginning. And he will know the end, and he will not taste death.

 

We are all one, living in the illusion of separation. Be gentle and forgiving to all of your selves.

The Eternal “Now”

Living in the moment.

I have a rather difficult time with this. I’ve always loved to day-dream and when things maybe are boring or annoying, it’s just too easy to flip that switch and go somewhere else. However, it seems that this is probably not a good habit to continue anymore. Now, I don’t mean to say daydreaming is bad, but to perpetually live in that state is not healthy. I don’t want to miss any messages or signs anymore !

I like to think of the world as “binary;” everything boiled down to ones and zeroes. Consider, if you will, that all the potential for creation lies within the “Zero.” This potential you can say is the endless well into which our consciousness can dip in order to create; to manifest some experience with which to learn. On the other side of this creative potential, everything that has been chosen, so to speak, will be the “One.” Boiled down, maybe I can call it the “Creative Potential” (Zero) and the “Chosen Reality” (One).

Lately, I have to ask myself where my focus is. Is my focus on everything that “is not” (but could be) or is my focus on that “which is?” I want to be more aware, and this is the route I will take, focusing on the “One” and only looking at the potentials when I intend to create something new.

“There is an appointed time for everything and a time for every delight under the sky.” (Ecc 3:1) So, why rush it? Let me enjoy the “boring” now, and begin to notice love and beauty in every thing and every moment. Let me see the Creator in every grain, in every atom, in every infinitesimal piece of the “One” which you and I have created. After all, didn’t we choose this moment?